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things would you"?

If these two things don't happen to him, others will. In one way or another he is given to understand that anything related to girls is not for him, and, moreover, from the tone of voice as well as what is said he will deduce that there is something shameful, wrong and socially unacceptable about a boy having any interests at all in things considered feminine or do- ing things that girls do. He learns that he will be called a "sissy" by friends and relatives if he does show any such interest. This early conditioning rides along without much change until adolescence. At this time the conditioning undergoes a metamorphosis just as his physiology does. No longer is the word "sissy" applied by others to these interests. No! The word becomes "fairy", "queer", "pansy" or other words assoc- iated with homosexuality. In other words, activities, abilities, interests ar behavior patterns that have not before been related to sex at all (and might re- main unrelated all the rest of the man's life were it not for the unkind remarks of his contemporaries) sud- denly become sexualized. By this I mean he is no longer accused of simply being effeminate or interested in things which should interest only girls, but instead it is now implied that because of these interests he is sexually attracted to men.

That this is untrue in most cases cannot be de- nied, but that this state of affairs exists for a large number of men can also not be denied. The end result of these events is that practically all men shy away from any activity, behavior pattern, interest and even occupation that has any relation to activities, behav- ior patterns, interests, or occupations generally con- sidered to be feminine lest they be accused by their fellows directly or by implication of being homosexual. Not only is this social pressure exerted by other males but by females too, since they regard males with such interests as something less than complete males. Of course there are exceptions in actual life, but even the exceptions have to bear the stigma---for example, male hairdressers, clothes designers, interior decor-